Stuck in the Shallow
Does life feel shallow? Generation Z and millennials (of which I am one) are often stereotyped as privileged and having so much in this world. We are able to pursue exciting careers where we can use our passion and skills, opportunities and blessings, technology and knowledge, unlike the generations before us.But like the lyrics suggest, we’re still not happy. We still feel a void and we’re yearning to fill it. “Shallow” recognizes this feeling:
Are you happy in this modern world?
Or do you need more?
Is there somethin’ else you’re searchin’ for?
Aren’t you tired tryin’ to fill that void?
Or do you need more?
In all the good times I find myself
Longing for change
We carry the world in our pocket, able to connect with everyone and pursue personal growth, yet sometimes it all feels shallow—school, careers, accomplishments, friendships, relationships—what’s the point?
Finding Depth in Relationships?
The song “Shallow” suggests that this yearning can be fulfilled in a relationship. In an interview, Lady Gaga said the song was “about wanting a deep connection and love.”3
As the lyrics go, we all want to “crash through” the superficial friendships and relationships in life and “dive into” a deep, authentic relationship where we’re fully known and fully loved—“where they can’t hurt us.”
Can you relate to this? I know I can. Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a genuine friendship, I long for community and deep, vulnerable, authentic connection.
And that’s natural, right? God created us for community. That’s why when Adam was alone in the garden, God said it was not good (Genesis 2:18). So God created Eve. Longing for a relationship is normal. Finding a deep connection and love is a good thing. But will a romantic relationship fill the void? Will it make you happy? Will it give you purpose and meaning in this life? The lyrics in “Shallow” seem to suggest that it will. And maybe it will, for a time. Perhaps our culture has mixed things up. While deep connection and love is a good thing, it still isn’t enough. It still won’t fill the innate void we all feel.
Seeking the Best Thing
C. S. Lewis said it so well: “Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life.”4
Have we made romantic relationships—a good thing—into an ultimate thing? Yes, there’s special joy and happiness, and even purpose and meaning that comes with being fully known and fully loved by another person. But maybe that yearning and void in our hearts are there so that we’ll realize our greater purpose. They are there so that we will be drawn back to God to enjoy a deep, fulfilling relationship with him. They are there to remind all of us, time and again, that this is not our home, but that we can wait expectantly to live for eternity in full communion with our Creator.
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