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February 28, 2012
Mr. and Mrs. Right
Maybe you didn’t marry Mr. Right. Good news -- no one does. I’m John Stonestreet, and this is The Point.
Working with young adults, I’ve heard it too: the millions of excuses why a relationship ended, and why the other person wasn’t “the one for them.” But as Tim Keller, pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York City wrote in The Meaning of Marriage, you never marry the right person. No two people are compatible, Keller says, because marriage profoundly changes us. Whoever you do marry will be changed by marriage itself -- and that’s not a bad thing. Also, people aren’t compatible because any two people who marry are each fallen and sinful -- a fact that suddenly seems more obvious after marriage than before.
I know this contradicts the Disney princess paradigm of there being this magical love story that is easy and perfect, including the numerous attempts to Christianize it. But it’s true. So, while there are things that make a potential spouse “the wrong one,” we need to change how we look for “the right one.” After all, we’ll never be the right one either. For thePointRadio.org, I’m John Stonestreet.
This commentary originally aired on January 18, 2012.
You Never Marry the Right Person
Timothy Keller | Relevant Magazine | January 05, 2012