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September 19, 2012

Just You Wait

Just You Wait

No wonder young Christians aren’t getting married! For the Chuck Colson Center for Christian Worldview, I’m John Stonestreet with The Point.


“Just you wait!” I can’t tell you how many times I heard older Christians say this to my wife and I, as well as other young couples. “You’re in love now, but your time will come. The honeymoon doesn’t last forever.”

As Sharon Miller writes at Christianity Today, she and her husband went into marriage dreading their future because of this so-called “advice.”

“Any day now,” she recalls thinking. The misery is coming.

But for the Millers and so far for Sarah and I, it never did. More wonderful years pass, and still older couples keep prophesying doom and gloom.

Maybe we drop the “just you wait” bomb not because we’re trying to strengthen young marriages, suggests Miller, but because we’re trying to “normalize our own hardships.”

It’s good to set realistic expectations about marriage. It’s work…but its’ also one of life’s greatest joys, if we do it God’s way.

Instead of “just you wait,” how about the Bible’s advice: “May your fountain be blessed. May you rejoice always in the wife of your youth.” For, I’m John Stonestreet.

Further Reading

The 'Just You Wait' Mantra: Is Marriage Really That Hard?
Sharon Hodde Miller | Her.Meneutics at Christianity Today | August 17, 2012

Proverbs 5:18-19
Bible Gateway

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  • September 19, 2012 // 07:20 am //  # 
    Nathan Magnuson's avatar Nathan Magnuson

    My pastor Mark Batterson says that God’s blessings will complicate your life in positive ways. Marriage is complicated. Thank God for complications!

  • September 19, 2012 // 08:41 am //  # 
    Katy Bautista's avatar Katy Bautista

    I just got engage with my boyfriend, we are very excited and happy, we are in our 35-40, now each other for 3 years and is time, not the less we where surprise that one of my sister really got nasty and star a lot of question before we have our formal dinner with my parents.. just wait is to soon, marriage is a lot of work,you do not now him, are you pregnant?.. the answer i gave here -I now! the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is the same :s, and the perfect status that the Lord design for us is to be in a couple… She did not stay more than 5 minute in our family gathering, everyone else where pretty happy and in a mexican independents mood.. we really have a long saturday night celebration… smile  :D

  • September 19, 2012 // 10:24 am //  # 
    Jacqueline's avatar Jacqueline

    My dear daughter was married last year at age 23. Her husband was 20. They have known since they were 17 and 20 they wanted to get married to each other. They have a very blessed relationship. My husband and I never discouraged them from marriage. We are quite proud of them.

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